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          PLAYING Why Woman Who Claims Her Father Raped Her Needs To Give Herself Permission To Have Mixed Emotions About Him

          Why Woman Who Claims Her Father Raped Her Needs To Give Herself Permission To Have Mixed Emotions About Him


          May 9, 2017

          Kelly says as a child, she had a great relationship with her father. She says he played with her and her siblings and kept them safe.

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          When her parents divorced when she was 11, her father was granted custody and she didn’t see her mom for five years. She says that’s when her life — and her relationship with her father — changed forever. She claims her father forced her to become his sex slave wife. She claims he “brainwashed” her into believing this was a “normal” life and threatened to harm her if she told anyone.

          Kelly says it wasn’t until she was 23 when a friend of hers called the police that the truth came out.

          Kelly says that she still has mixed emotions about their relationship and struggles to move forward.

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          In the video above, Dr. Phil explains to Kelly about the 10-7-5, a concept he describes in his book Self Matters. “The 10 defining moments that we have in our life, the 7 critical choices that we make that define who we are, and the 5 pivotal people that we encounter along the way. And if you’re ever going to know who you are, if you’re ever going to know why you do the things you do and feel the things you feel, you’re going to have to identify what your 10 defining moments are, what your 7 critical choices are, and who your 5 pivotal people are,” he says. “In the early years, [your father] defined himself in a positive way to you. And then he became evil, and rotten, and took away from you your childhood, your innocence, and so much that you deserve to have and can never get back. And so you have mixed emotions because you have mixed experiences, you have mixed memories … You’ve got to give yourself permission to say, yeah, there was a time, but then it all changed.”

          Hear more of Dr. Phil’s advice in the video above. This episode airs Tuesday. Watch more here.

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          Dr. Phil Explains To A Young Woman How She May Have Suffered From Emotional Extortion By Her Father

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