Holly says that when her boyfriend of two months, Murat, suggested they get married, she “freaked out” but went along with it and decided to “make the best of it.” Now, less than a year into their marriage, Holly says she’s no longer in love with Murat and is ready to file for divorce. She claims they argue often and Murat has gotten physical with her on three occasions.

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“I want to understand how I’ve got to this place – and then how to get out of it. I want to get out of the situation,” Holly tells Dr. Phil on Thursday’s episode.

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“We’re products of our learning history. We’re products of our experiences in life,” Dr. Phil says, noting that Holly says she was violated as a child. “I think there are some very open wounds where people that you could have and should have been able to trust violated that trust with you, and it left some very open wounds in you. And I think as a result, you have had very low self-esteem and very low self-worth, and that causes you to grab on not to Mr. Right, but to Mr. Right Now. You haven’t coupled up with or married the man you wanted, you’ve coupled up or married the man you wish you had. And then you get disappointed over and over again.”

Hear more from Dr. Phil in the video above. And on Thursday, hear his advice for Holly. Check here to see where you can watch.

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Today’s Takeaway: Consequences Of Unfinished Emotional Business