Cole says his mom, Debra, has been an “absentee” mom most of his life. He was raised by his father and his aunt and claims his mom made numerous promises to visit him but never showed up – and even walked out of his life twice a year, every year.

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The young man says that at one point, he developed enough trust in his mother to confide that he is gay – a decision he says he now regrets.

“I made her promise not to tell anyone,” Cole shares. But he claims she went behind his back and told enough people to where it “just blew up from there.”

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“It’s not OK for people to tell other people that I’m gay until I come out as gay,” Cole says. “I wanted to tell people when I was ready, and my mother took that away from me.”

Debra claims she never told anyone.

Hear more in the video above. And on Tuesday’s episode of Dr. Phil, see what happens when Debra is invited onstage to face her son. Check here to see where you can watch.

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