How to Change Your Relationship with a Liar
January 14, 2010
Do you ever lie? Or are you in a relationship with a liar? Dr. Phil offers steps to change your behavior, and in turn, change your relationship with a dishonest person.
Remember that You Teach People How to Treat You
You’ve got to have your eyes wide open. See people for who they are, not who you want them to be. Don’t teach somebody that they can get away with lying to you.
You Can’t Change What You Don’t Acknowledge
You have to be honest with yourself about whether somebody is abusing you, using you or misrepresenting things to you.
Be Real with Yourself and Your Partner
If you lie to yourself, you’re the filter. You’re the way the world gets to see you, so if you’re distorting, then you’re totally lost.
Be as Forthcoming as You Can Be Before You Enter into a Commitment
If something is not right about you — you think you’ve got a bad trait or characteristic — it’s going to come out eventually. You might as well be honest from the beginning.
Hear Your Partner
Listen to what your mate is saying. Don’t hear what you want to hear.
Ask Yourself if You’re Willing to Settle for What You’re Doing
Are you happy with the circumstances you’re in? If not, demand the truth from others and yourself.