July 13, 2005
Stop playing games.
Dr. Phil tells Stacy that her affairs were a bid for attention from her husband Chris. “Isn’t the price of admission that your husband has to pay and your children have to pay a pretty high ticket price for you to get in that game and be entertained?” he asks. He advises Stacy to stop thinking that she’s smarter than everyone else is and start becoming a responsible member of her family.
Hide nothing from your partner.
“I have a philosophy. People who have nothing to hide, hide nothing,” states Dr. Phil. He informs Stacy that she’s going to have to become a picture window and stop the smoke and mirrors. “Stop hiding, stop lying, stop cheating and stop manipulating,” Dr. Phil cautions.
Don’t take ownership of others’ mistakes.
Dr. Phil warns Chris that blaming himself for his wife’s decision to have affairs is an unfair move. He tells Chris that even though he isn’t a perfect husband, Chris doesn’t own Stacy’s decision to cheat.
Turning away from your partner won’t fix the problem.
“Stay plugged in and stay hooked up,” advises Dr. Phil. If couples have problems within their marriage, they need to deal with those problems inside the union. “You need to be either a 100 percent here or a 100 percent gone,” he warns.
Set a standard.
Many marriages suffer because spouses often fail to set parameters within the relationship on how they want to be treated. Refuse to stand for disrespect or neglect. “The standard is treat me with dignity and respect or not at all,” Dr. Phil explains.