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          Self Matters

          What Is Your Life Script?

          September 04, 2002


          How fixed beliefs define our roles:
          Our fixed beliefs define the roles we play in life and have a lot to do with the scripts that are running them. Just as actors follow a play’s script for lines, actions and attitude, we follow life scripts according to what our fixed beliefs tell us. Are you telling yourself that you are a tragic character or heroic character? Are you playing the loving mother, abusive husband, frustrated artist or successful businessman?

          Why scripts are dangerous:
          Whatever your fixed beliefs are, you have practiced your script for so long that you believe what it says about you and your potential. This is why life scripts are dangerous. We begin to perceive them as being set in stone. We even allow them to shape the way we expect things to turn out. Fixed beliefs also influence the casting, location and wardrobe of our script. Who is “right” for the part in our script and who isn’t? What type of living arrangement and attire are appropriate for the character we are playing, etc.?

          When life scripts become limiting:
          Because our scripts are based on fixed beliefs, we tend to resist any challenges or changes to them. If we suddenly feel happy and fulfilled, but our script says that we should feel sad and hopeless, we tend to panic because we’ve gone “off script.” It just doesn’t feel right and besides, the happy role belongs to someone else, doesn’t it? This is an example of why most fixed beliefs are also limiting beliefs. They limit our scripts by dictating what we can’t do, don’t deserve and aren’t qualified for.

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