Meeting the love of your life doesn't take one huge step; it takes lots of little steps in the right direction. To up your chance of finding him, you've got to get out there, make an effort and make sure you see and are seen by as many qualified new guys as possible. Remember, what you say is only a portion of what attracts people to you. The other part is all the nonverbal actions and mannerisms that speak volumes.
In Chapter Seven of his book, Love Smart: Find the One You Want — Fix the One You Got, Dr. Phil offers these tips for having a successful first date.